When your child has to change schools

   April 12, 2012 8:24 am    4

 

This is my little school changer. The youngest of my kids, he moved from the only school he had ever known (where he went to countless events with his older siblings) right after kindergarten. I moved him once in high school and then moved him back all in the same year. Today, he’s an honor student in college.

Being forced to change schools can be an emotional roller coaster, but the thing about change is that it is inevitable. As parents, we have to support our kids. But we can’t let our emotions get in the way of change that affects our kids — because it’s not about us.

To help kids through changing schools, be positive. An article on how to help kids cope is right here. And a lot of it has to do with knowing your child’s temperament. Help them out in ways that are specific to what they need — again, not what parents need.

For some families, moving regularly is the norm. It is still stressful, but families do adapt. Look at military kids — they move constantly. But if a move is going to devastate your family and your child, consider the options: moving, home schooling or a charter school. Sometimes, looking at all the choices enables us to relax and make the right choice without getting too involved in emotions of the moment.

Kids adapt more easily than we do. Once they get involved in activities in the new school and make new friends, the next life changes and choices will be much easier. Someday, they’ll need to choose a high school, part-time job, post-high-school education or training and a career — all big changes they should embrace, not dread.

When change is forced on us, it’s no fun. But adapting teaches our kids a life lesson that change can be good — even better than we anticipated.

 

 

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