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By Pam Parker Erie Times-News staff blogger
Pam Parker's blog takes on everything from women's fun to momisms to lifestyles around Lake Erie and real estate. She'll take you down Memory Lane, up through sports and fun and off the grid. Get ready for laughs — it's more than just Pam. It's Pamdemonium.   Read more about this blog.
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Posted: November 15th, 2013

Wedding Ring or Engagement Ring on whiteI never thought about the gunk I get on my rings. Or bracelets. Or necklaces. Until I opened an e-mail that told me all about my jewelry germs. Ick!

In a press release, David Bellman, inventor of the Aquasonic Wave jewelry cleaning system, and Dr. Holly Neefe, a pediatrician with 17 years of experience, warned that bacteria gets on our jewelry, and it makes us  carriers for some nasty germs.

Bellman invented the AquaSonic Wave, an at-home professional-quality jewelry cleaning system, but this isn’t a commercial for that. However, it is notable that Bellman’s co-inventor is Dean Kamen,  inventor of the portable kidney dialysis machine, and the Segway — those cool transport systems we ride in big cities, at the peninsula and at Peek ‘n Peak. For more information visit www.aquasonicwave.com.

Here’s an article from Woman’s Day on DIY — how to clean your jewelry at home. It includes quick tips on how to clean pearls, diamonds, sterling silver, gold and turquoise. Here’s an ehow link on how to clean opals.

Pam Parker is the editor of Lake Erie LifeStyleHer Times and House to Home at the Erie Times-News in Erie, Pa. She is mom to three, stepmom to three and GramPam to one.

Posted: October 17th, 2013
Kelli Postema and Julie Fedders.

Kelli Postema and Julie Fedders were among the 60 women who dressed as witches for an annual Welcome Club Event — a Witch Party.

Oct. 11 marked a wicked-good day in the Erie area when more than 60 women dressed as witches for an annual costume event of The Welcome Club of Erie.

Kelli Postema, new to the Erie area, swept the women into her home for the party after Kate Zahorchak hosted the event for eight magical years.
This isn’t just a party. It’s an event where women search the country for cloaks, cauldrons and costumes. “Some of the women look all year for the perfect outfit,” Kelli said.
Fine costumes included Dorothy and her ruby slippers, Glenda the Good Witch, a biker witch and others.

The gathering brewed up tasty treats that included deviled eyeballs, witch hat cookies, broomstick pretzel sticks and “devilish green punch that may turn a good witch into a bad witch,” Kelli said. witches2From left: Linda Whalen, Deb Mack,Caroline Jenks and Sharon Stoik.

From left: Deb Mack, Caroline Jenks and Kelli Postema. Middle: Kate Zahorchak. Right: Linda Whalen, Deb Mack, Sharon Stoik and Caroline Jenks.

Fashion show coming!
The group doesn’t just get together to look stylish in witch garb. On Tuesday, Nov. 19, the club will host a fashion show.
Where: Lake Shore Country Club, 5950 Lake Shore Drive
When: Brunch will begin at 11:15 and fashion show to follow with Fashions from Coldwater Creek.
Cost: $20 includes brunch, fashion show, with a cash bar available
Hostesses: Minnie Lawrie, Toni Bliley and Marianne Levstek
Info: Minnie at 814-528-6763

Seating is limited to 200. E- mail Kathy Goodiel (k8goodie@yahoo.com) or call Ann Miller (814-833-4176) to reserve a ticket by Nov. 12 at 6 p.m.

Pam Parker is the editor of Lake Erie LifeStyleHer Times and House to Home at the Erie Times-News in Erie, Pa. She is mom to three, stepmom to three and GramPam to one.

Posted: October 15th, 2013

poopourriNo, it’s not a joke.

Poo-Pourri founder Suzy Batiz, of Dallas, set up a business in 2007 that takes the stink out of the bathroom — before it happens. Watch the funny video at left if you don’t know what I am talking about.

Poo~Pourri Toilet Deodorizers are the spray-before-you-go scents that prevent the odor of number 2 making a stink in the loo. The website indicates that the spray forms a barrier on the toilet water surface and keeps bathroom odors from ever forming. The sprays retail for $10 to $14.

Batiz had a few failed careers and then landed this one sparked by her husband and sons — need we say more?

The video, starring a BYU student, went viral, and Poo-Pourri has sold more than 4 million bottles. This is a company with a sense of humor. The commercial and the names of the scents are all fresh. And the company has products for diapers, pooches and cats. Click on the names below for some entertaining descriptions:


It’s environmentally friendly.  Watch the real commercial on the link above. Watch how the company got started on the middle link, and then see a blooper reel here.

I see Christmas gifts in the offing for the men in the family.

To buy it, try these local stores listed on the Poo-Pourri website:

A La Carte

2624 W 8th St.
(814) 838-6749
Traditions Unlimited
1609 W. 8th St.
(814) 456-5516
Serendipity Emporium
126 High Street,Waterford
(814) 796-0094


Pam Parker is the editor of Lake Erie LifeStyleHer Times and House to Home at the Erie Times-News in Erie, Pa. She is mom to three, stepmom to three and GramPam to one.

Posted: October 11th, 2013


Time to reboot? Me too! I am in search of boots, and I have spent a lifetime trying to squeeze my small feet and larger-than-average calves into designer boots. I’ve used pliers to pull those zippers up on occasion. I’ve worked up a sweat getting them on and never take them off until day is done. Or I buy pull-ons.

Recently, I had success at Payless. Women’s Nadia Tall Boots from Payless — under $40 got great reviews. I tried them and liked them. I also found some of their other boots, that were not extended-calf boots, fit me perfectly. I am sold!

If you search for wide-calf or extended-calf boots online, make sure to measure your calf and read the reviews. Although some boots may claim to extend beyond a 14-16-inch circumference, reviewers are blunt and say the boots are not big enough.

calf stretcherIf you still want regular designer boots, and who doesn’t, one option is this handy, dandy calf stretcher from FootFitter on Amazon.com. It goes inside the boot, claims to work miracles, gets a 5-star review from 18 out of 19 reviewers – the 19th gave it 4 stars. It is on sale now for $169 — I say we all chip in, buy one and pass it around! Note that you only get one for $169 and most reviewers said to pay really close attention to the directions. I’m guessing you could break something if you don’t.

Pam Parker is the editor of Lake Erie LifeStyleHer Times and House to Home at the Erie Times-News in Erie, Pa. She is the mom of three, stepmom to three and GramPam to one.

Posted: October 6th, 2011

Weddings have arrived for our family, and being a stepfamily opens a new chapter with another wedding on the horizon. Fortunately, it’s not uncharted territory for us. My hubby’s oldest son got married a few years ago. As a stepmom, here’s what I learned:
1. It’s all about the bride and groom and their bio-parents — we steps have nothing to do, but offer support — to our spouses. Silence is golden, and if someone asks your opinion, stay vanilla. No matter what you say, you’ll wish you hadn’t opened your mouth. Now, I’m not saying that’s what I did the first time around. I’m just telling you what I learned.
2. Give the kids a specific sum of money and tell them to enjoy making their plans. It’s easier. That way, the decisions are up to the bride and groom. When all the parents get involved if there’s any disagreement, someone gets hurt. It gets ugly. Just write a check and be supportive. Once again, I’m not saying that’s what we did the first time around. I’m just telling you what I learned.
3. Get approval on your dress or suit or whatever you’re wearing. I DID do this. I wore navy blue. I know wearing beige is what some etiquette guru might suggest, but be careful. Beige isn’t always a good choice for a lot of reasons. Ask the bride and make her happy.
Enjoy it all, and smile. It’s over in a flash. The happiness you see on the kids in their wedding pictures will give you happy memories forever. And once you read all the advice and Q&As on The Knot, you’ll discover that other people had some terrible problems. Be thankful you didn’t have those wedding bell blues.

Posted: October 5th, 2011

“Well of course you can!” I say enthusiastically.
We’ve all encountered the “bring a friend along,” and it’s a great idea … on paper.
Three things I’ve learned:
1. When your darlings start bringing along friends, enjoy it. Make it fun. You will be the odd man out and often more of a driver than a participant, but at least for the ride in the car, you’ll get a chance to KNOW the friends. Take it from me — mom of three and stepmom of three — no one, and I mean no one, will influence your child more than friends.
2. Be prepared if the kids want to ditch you. As kids become ‘tweens, you become invisible, especially at the mall. But relish letting go a little. Watching your child grow up and interact without you is endearing. You’re going to see a little of yourself in that tween. Smile and remember it’s a step toward independence. Give them the space they need, but make sure you have had all the safety discussions in advance.
3.You’re going to find that you don’t like some of the friends, but don’t be judgmental, at least not out loud. My mother was a terrible judge of character. She disliked some of my teen friends that are, to this day, my best buds.
But that doesn’t mean every kid will be a lifelong bud. The bottom line here is that kids change. The overly loud, boisterous and obnoxious friend that your child loves and you dislike might be the lifesaver your youngster needs someday. Trust me on this. A friend can be annoying one year and thoughtful the next. It’s all part of the growing process … for us and our offspring.

Posted: October 1st, 2011

I dodged the bullet on allergies most of this year, but I am paying for it these past few days. Sneezing and itchy-red eyes are my enemy today. I just took a dose of Allegra, which doesn’t always work. So now I am scanning the list of meds at webmd.com One of the few things that works for me is Singulair, which I pretty much take year round. My prescription ran out, so as soon the Her Times 5K is over — it’s off to the pharmacy.
I know how hard this season is on kids, too. None of the kids had the same results. My son did well on Zyrtec for years, but knocked my daughter out. Same with Benadryl.
Although I do hate the feel and taste of nasal sprays, they work. That’s next in my arsenal today. If you can get kids to try it, they often find that it works so well, it is worth the temporary discomfort. I can guarantee it.
See all you ladies at the 5K — I’m the one with the red eyes!

Posted: September 30th, 2011

I never ask people to vote for anything or anyone. Not on Facebook or anyplace else, but I implore everyone to vote for Liz Allen in the Live Fearlessly contest.
If you don’t know Liz, please read the essay submitted. I do know Liz, and she is an extraordinary woman who faced a lot of sadness in her life losing numerous family members in a short time. Yet, Liz never dwells on the sadness. She is an inspiration for all of us.
Liz is the public editor at the Erie Times-News, and I am proud to have known her for decades. Take just a minute to voter for her today — voting ends tonight.
The contest is a statewide honor, and no one deserves it more than Liz.

Posted: September 28th, 2011

The Her Times race is Saturday at the Rotary Pavilion on Presque Isle, and the Her Times staff will be there to root on the more than 800 — that’s right 800 women who will be running for fun, for good health and for private reasons that often inspire me.
Congratulations and a huge thanks to Heather Cass. Without her, there would be no Her Times 5K. Make sure you give her a huge thank-you when you see her!
Last year, an acquaintance of mine told me she ran because her friend, who had passed away, ran it every year. It was a connection to her friend.
This year, we received a call from a woman whose Bible study group is running together. This is one of dozens of group efforts that are all part of the Her Times experience.
Whatever your reason for running, go for it. And walking is just fine, too in this 5K. The 3.2 miles (that’s what a 5K is) isn’t all that far when you do it with friends and enjoy it. It’s going to be a beautiful day — perfect for running. I hear a possibility of showers with temps in the 40s. I’m working the race, so we’ll see you there.
For more info, check out Heather’s blog

Posted: September 27th, 2011

When kids make you laugh so hard, your sides hurt, it might be the middle school years. It’s a time when kids have a somewhat grown-up appearance, but they still have that impishness that makes me grin just thinking about it.
I still laugh when I think of football car pools. No one wanted the return trip home, but I did. The skinny boys of fall were muddy, sweaty and laughing. In our car pool, we had twins who excelled in rapid-fire delivery of Internet jokes that made me laugh so hard, I’d cry.
This hearty half dozen players had also mastered and memorized some “Jeopardy” skits from “Saturday Night Live” starring Will Farrell as the Alex Trebek and Darrell Hammond as Sean Connery.
It was like watching it live.
Now, we also did have practical jokes in school, but these kids did nothing like the tricks I recalled at St. George Elementary School. And many of those kids had grown up to be teachers, principals, lawyers, judges and doctors.
Middle schoolers will make you laugh, make mistakes, make you cry and give you memories. The best advice I ever received about dealing with any of the bad times was from a teacher. “Kids will have rules to follow the rest of their lives. If they break a few now, they’ll learn to stop. We all need to give them a break.
Here’s to middle school mayhem.